Parenting is an extremely complex practice and at the same time, challenging too. It is because every child is unique. What works for one may not work for another, even within the same family. Parenting practices also differ from one country to another country.
The secret why Japanese children become matured at a young age lies in their upbringing. They are allowed to ride the subway at the age of seven, which the parents of some countries can’t even imagine. Again, parents in some countries send their children to bed at 6.30 pm, which is terrifying in countries like Spain or Latin America.
In the studies and researches, three reasons are there as the differences in parenting.
- How affectionate and loving the parents are towards their children
- How much control you give to the children on their lives
- Children are given how much sense of structure and predictability
The differences in these three key factors have a significant impact on child development. The emotional attachment between the children and parents also has a lasting effect. The attachment theory deals with the connections between human minds. In this article, we will focus only on the parent-child attachment.
Significance Of Attachment In Parenting Practice
John Bowlby was a child psychiatrist. He worked at the Tavistock Clinic in London during world war II. He observed the devastating effect of mother-child separation. Mary Ainsworth, another Canadian psychologist, explains that mother-child seeks mutual proximity for survival. A child feels comfortable and secure, which is vital for his development.
This sensitivity is associated with a mother’s capacity to look after her child when he is in distress. A mother can understand if her baby is in distress and responds to her child’s mental state to alleviate her. The kid also feels better relaxed when the mother is around.
If any baby lacks this affection and attachment, he thinks himself alone, unlovable in this world.
Attachment Is Incorporated In The Contemporary Parenting Practices
Attachment helps to build a strong bonding between parent and child. Some common practices are like co-sleeping. It is to sleep close to one or both parents or to feed mother’s milk to the baby, helps to grow attachment.
Based on this attachment theory, extended maternity and paternity leave are offered. It allows new parents to spend more quality time with their babies. Early-stage education is also a part of attachment theory. In Sweden, parental leave is entitled up to 8 years of the child. The needs of the child should be at the top priority for ideal parenting.
Some contradictions of this attachment theory are also there. The German psychologist says that crying is only a way of passing the time to newborn babies. She also adds that the infants should be kept separated from their mothers in a separate room after birth. It will protect the baby from the germs outside. It also gives some time to the mother to recuperate the stresses of the birth process.