If you’re first-time in foster care, you could be both excited and scared. You might be wondering what to expect if you haven’t had a placement yet. Alternatively, if you are on your first placement, you are introduced to new routines and experiences.
Set Aside Time For Them
Make time for your foster children. This is maybe the most crucial guideline for developing your foster care. This doesn’t only imply being present when kids return home from school or sharing a meal with them. It’s critical to set aside time for quality bonding, which could be as easy as watching a movie together or going out to do something fun. Making time for them (maybe simultaneously each week to establish a routine) is a beautiful way to connect with them and strengthen your foster connection.
Pay Attention To Them
Children’s communication isn’t just one-sided; eventually, your foster child will need to communicate with you as well, and this may be accomplished by just listening to them when they want to speak. It may be difficult to hear what’s on their minds and the problems they’ve had before joining your family, but as a foster parent, it’s critical to listen and respond appropriately. You want them to feel comfortable confiding in you and that you are always available to listen.
Establish A Foundation Of Trust
One of the most important elements is trust; you’ll need to build a successful foster relationship. This doesn’t happen overnight, especially if a youngster or adolescent has had a traumatic experience and struggles with trust. Trust takes time to earn, but there are some steps you may take to earn their trust. Telling them anything personal about themselves will make them feel more trusted, but avoid telling them anything they can use against you during a difficult moment.
Shared Activities With Your Foster Child
Prepare The Food
Cooking together is a terrific bonding exercise, whether it’s their favourite cuisine, a giant chocolate cake for the whole family to devour, or weird experimental cooking to see what you can come up with. It instils a feeling of responsibility in the foster child, provides structure in following the recipe’s directions, and allows you to spend time together doing something fun. Children may be more ready to communicate in a setting where they are to your side rather than face to face since it is easier for them to converse.
Take Time To Read
You can read to the foster child or have them read to you, depending on their age. This not only improves their reading abilities and literature knowledge, but it may also be a terrific bonding activity. Why not start with a series like Harry Potter? This way, it’ll be an activity they’ll like, and you’ll be able to do it together until you’ve done the whole series.
You are exposing your home to scrutiny when you start foster care. It is critical to keep track of the time you spend with your children. Keep track of behavioural events, doctor visits, and parent visits, among other things. By keeping track of these details, you may be able to figure out what causes behaviour shifts.